Six Parenting Tips 🔢

As most of you know, I am a mom of 3 and a coach for career women. What you may not know is that since 2015 several schools have sought me out to teach mindfulness and emotional intelligence to kids and teachers. I have therefore had the chance to meet hundreds of children, a bunch of motivated teachers and involved parents.

Children challenge and inspire us to be better parents, we put a lot of thought and some of us have read many books... but guess what, knowledge is not enough without the conscious will to put the knowledge to practice. I also talked with parent clients and other experts to come up with my own “formula” or list.

I am happy to share what I think are the :

6️⃣ Six Attributes of a Successful Parent

Drumroll please, the first attribute is #VULNERABILITY.😮‍💨😟

With your children, being vulnerable means opening up your life to them. As You reveal more of who you are to your children, they will feel more at ease opening up to you about who they are. When you tell them what terrifies you, they will respond by telling you what makes them feel uneasy. When they realize ‌you experience the same feelings that they do, it makes them more likely to turn to you for support when things get difficult.

In other words, YOU become RELATABLE to them.

It means showing your real self and being open to your own struggles to be better.

Once your children see you without the mask🎭 or facade of indifference, then they are

Likely to follow and have the courage 💪 to be seen for who they are and more importantly to be loved 🤟 for who they really are, but it has to start with you as the parent.

To check if you are exhibiting vulnerability, ask yourself the following:🔢

👐 How do I show up as a parent ?

👊 How do I express myself ?

👋 How can I be even more me ?

👌 How can I connect more with my vulnerability?

⚔️🦁 Be Courageous

A courageous parent is one who is willing to give their children the autonomy to make decisions that will have the greatest positive impact on their long-term goals and capabilities, as opposed to decisions that will satisfy their children's immediate gratifications.

Making smart decisions in the face of fear or challenges requires courage. Remember that bravery does not imply fearlessness. It means we don't allow fear to stop us from exploring new chances, honing our talents, and doing the right thing.✨

Of course, we want our children to discover their own paths to growth, and that requires courage.

As a parent, teach them how to grow by going out of their #comfort zone.➿

Identify your fear 👁️‍🗨️⁉️

💱 Is it career-related

💬 Or communicating openly and deeply

⛔ Is it discomfort on showing vulnerability?

Addressing the fear through deliberate action does not remove them, but it gives us enough acceptance to recognize the problem and do steps to overcome them. When our children see our own journey they are taught to do the same indirectly through our example.

❤️‍🔥Be Passionate

Always keep in mind that the definition of a passionate parent is a mother or father who joyfully teaches their children and is truly invested in their efforts.

We are more than parents. 👩 ♀️ There are different aspects of who we ( we can be working and have a partner as well) and are and we need Passion 🔥 to experience all of those.

Why is it important to have passion while trying to fulfill the many roles we women generally have?

Because when we have passion, it is also what we give or share with those around us, ⛓️ especially our children. This gives us the energy to be in our zone of genius.🎯

This sounds easy, but it requires a lot of work to learn to channel your energy correctly.

I can help with that if you are ready.

Having the extra energy has a domino effect. 🎲 It makes us more effective, that we can channel the energy to parenting as well.

Passion connects us to other attributes as well. When you look and see what specific activities make you excited, then do that even more because the effect will be the opposite - it will literally give you the FLOW you need to be in control of your life.💎

Deciding to raise a family does not mean you can not pursue your other dreams with guidance, you can go through all your roles with passion.♥🙋‍♀️

🔗👐Be Connected

Children have a built-in desire to provide a helping hand, and when you assign them tasks and responsibilities, you enhance their sense of autonomy and make them feel as though their contributions are valued. There are many daily habits to stay connected with your children but more than that be connected with yourself as a mom, as a person, and find your #WHY.

This is all about #softskills. Empathetic parenting focuses on the child's feelings and motivations instead of the parent's need for the child to stop doing something they don't like.😳

When parents are connected with themselves they can better understand their children’s feelings. When it is clear WHY you do WHAT you do, it is an excellent way to show your children how to live life without the lecture that children don’t really appreciate.🤫

When we as parents are truly wired with our emotions we manifest that and become more grounded that we do not forget all other aspects that are important like the connection with our children and partner.⚡👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

Check the quality of your interaction with these :

⌛ How can I have more quality time?

🙌 How can I show up even more?

🤝 How can I connect with myself and my kids even better?

When we take time to ask these questions we become more aware of what needs to be done and perhaps ask for help to do these better.

💪💡Be Inspiring

Life has so many distractions and pressures that the best way to inspire our children is to show them by believing in them and working with them. If you want your children to pursue the extraordinary path then walk that path too to show them the way.

Parents need to understand their children see 👀 them all the time and they interpret your action👋🏼 to be ‌inspiring or not, so why not aspire to be a source of #motivation🏹 instead not just to your children but to your partner as well?

It is not about ego or attracting attention🛎️ but rather showing the right path🛣️ to be better.

Whatever we aspire our children to be: courageous, vulnerable, connected

we have to embody those traits first so they can be inspired to follow our lead👍.

So while trying to be the source of inspiration ask yourself:#️⃣

1️⃣How can I inspire my children more

2️⃣How I can bring more elements to their lives that will

Bring long-term success?

These questions🔢 will give us parents the opportunity to reflect 🤔💭 and plan our actions.

Yes, there are many resources or books on parenting but it living it is different from reading it.

If we want to effect change🔺 then the change must start with us.

Let’s be inspiring at home and at work.

This is the last one, promise!

I feel I would be remiss if I do not share this last attribute

Again drumroll, please

📏📐DISCIPLINE

If you want to have the glue that puts together all the other attributes, this is it …

Even if we have the tools to use but if we refuse to use them consistently and

Treating life as if it were a sprint instead of a marathon 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♂️then we can not have the #discipline.

You might think freedom and discipline are counter-intuitive or contradictory, but no, in fact

One can not enjoy freedom without the structure that discipline provides.

Studies have shown that self-disciplined people are happier. Why? Because when we have discipline and self-control, we are more likely to reach the goals that really matter to us. 🚀 Self-discipline is the link between setting goals and meeting them.🎢

When we bridge that, we can teach our children as well.

People with more self-control don't spend as much time thinking about whether or not to do things that go against their values or goals. They make better choices. They don't let their feelings or impulses decide what to do. They make up their own beliefs and decide what actions to take to get what they want. So, they aren't as easily led astray by temptations and tend to be happier with their lives.

If you find yourself still filled with questions and feeling lost come join us at Freedom Cather Academy and let’s work on being better

I know the list can be overwhelming but I promise we can walk this path together

we can start now: simply schedule a strategy session, this initial call is free, and we will discover together your next 3 steps for a more positive life for you and your children.

I work with career women and I love to see family as our biggest asset to grow as better human beings and in return bring out the best in our children and surrounding.

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